Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Bracing myself for the inevitable

Last night I was sitting at Keegan's swimming lessons and I was SO crabby. Everyone I looked at was bugging me and I was stewing about some work things and dreading the next two weeks because they are just so busy. And then it hit me. PMS. I am totally PMSing.

Shit.

I know I still have five days left but I know my body well enough to know how it works. I am right on par with any other negative cycle. Swell.

It's not like I had much hope in me anyway. But even a little hope is hard to let go of and hard to get over.

The thing that I am currently struggling with the most is this...when and how do you stop? I've been talking about this for awhile, gearing up for the fall when I am pretty sure we are going to quit. But how? I was thinking that if this was my last cycle (which it isn't quite yet) then how do I just shift gears and ignore my cycles? How do I just not think about fertile days or timing sex? How do I truly let go? I think that is going to be SO hard to do. I won't go back on birth control for a couple of reasons but mostly because it all makes me so sick. I also can't imagine doing something as permanent as DH having a vasectomy. But eventually, we'll have to talk about that. As much as I want another baby, I do not want one at 50, you know? Not that I am close to 50 but I'm just saying.

I'm rambling, I know. But I truly wonder, after actively trying for almost 50 cycles, how do you just stop?

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

I have no idea, Angie. But I have always said I don't want kids after 35 (personal reasons, plus that means my kids would be 6+ years apart, and at that point, why bother) so I only have another year or so to try before I would be 35 when I give birth. So eventually I either have to get pregnant or think about how I stop the madness and try to move on. I have no idea how I go about doing that either. But if we end in the same boat (and I hope the boat we actually are in is both being pregnant VERY soon) and have to move on, we can lean on each other. I know it's a small consolation, but misery loves company..

-Leighann

Elise said...

I know exactly how stressful this time is. I've spent the last two weeks convinced that our IUI didn't work, the last week in PMS hell and then today had a positive beta. I guess all I'm saying is that you never know until the data are back from the lab. Hang in there, my fingers are crossed for you.

Anonymous said...

Where are you? I miss you!

-Leighann